Neddy Dommer, MA, LMFT, EMDR Certified

Welcome. I am Neddy Dommer, and I am genuinely honored that you have found your way here. My deepest desire involves meeting you exactly where you currently are in your life's journey. Together, we will create a safe, supportive space to gently uncover those parts of you that have been hurt. We will also acknowledge and honor the protective aspects that developed for your safety, both within yourself and in your relationships with others. Through this collaborative work, you will build new, healthier connections within your own being, ultimately empowering you to make different choices in your life moving forward.

About Me: Your Path to Healing Begins Here

I have always felt a strong calling to be a supportive presence for others, a role I learned at a very young age within my own family. This early experience naturally guided me toward becoming a therapist later in life. Additionally, I have always been a profound lover of stories. I spent the first half of my adult life immersed in that world, often putting words to paper and working through my own internal narrative. This journey proved incredibly helpful as a mother of four, enabling me to choose new ways of relating to my children than what I had experienced growing up. Yet, despite my best intentions, I could still feel and see myself inadvertently creating some of the very wounds in my children that I had vowed to avoid.

When my youngest child entered their double digits, I felt a powerful stirring within myself to become even more intentional in my relationships. This inner nudge led me to the Masters in Marriage & Family program at The King’s University. While in the program, I attended a weekend intensive called “KAIROS,” which became a pivotal invitation to pause and connect more deeply. In that moment, the concepts of "holding space" and "story" powerfully collided for me in an incredibly visceral way. This experience propelled me into extensive trauma training with pioneers like Bessel van der Kolk. I then pursued in-depth study of Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges and Deb Dana, and Interpersonal Neurobiology with Dan Siegel. I also became EMDRIA certified in EMDR, and gained specialized training with Colin Ross for DID. It became increasingly clear to me that how individuals’ stories were held – first in childhood, then within themselves, and finally expressed in intimate adult relationships – directly determined whether they experienced trauma or developed secure attachment. Therefore, Attachment theory, Polyvagal theory, and Interpersonal Neurobiology serve as the core foundations of my practice. I specialize in working with individuals, couples, and families as we compassionately explore their attachment and developmental wounding together.

Services & Approach: Deep Healing, Lasting Change

I utilize a comprehensive blend of therapeutic approaches to facilitate deep and lasting healing. Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory, and Interpersonal Neurobiology provide the crucial cognitive understanding necessary for profound insight into your experiences. To complement this cognitive work, I incorporate powerful right-brain somatic and emotional expression and support through various modalities. These include EMDR, ETT, Sandtray, Expressive Arts, IASIS MCN, and SSP. Each method is carefully chosen to offer direct support for your emotional processing.

The therapy space we create together is always profoundly collaborative, wonderfully compassionate, and filled with genuine curiosity. It exists as a completely non-judgmental environment where we honor your unique journey at every step. My approach is highly adaptive, meaning I ensure that I meet each individual exactly where they are in their personal process, tailoring interventions to your specific needs.

My Credentials

I bring a strong foundation of education and specialized training to my practice. Here are my key qualifications and affiliations:

Licenses & Degrees:

• Licensed Therapist: Active licenses in both Texas and New Mexico.
• Master of Arts (MA): Marriage & Family Therapy, The King’s University.
• Bachelor of Fine Arts (BFA): Writing and Literature, Emerson College. (This degree reflects my deep passion for understanding personal stories.)

Certifications & Specialized Training:

• EMDRIA EMDR Certified Therapist: Expert in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
• Certified ETT Complex Trauma Therapist: Specialized in Emotional Transformation Therapy for complex trauma.
• Certified Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) Provider: Offers neurophysiological support for regulation.
• Certified Sand Tray Therapist: Utilizes sandplay for symbolic expression and healing.
• IASIS Micro Current Neurofeedback (MCN) Certified Practitioner: Provides neurofeedback for brain regulation.
• Gottman Method Couples Therapy Trained: Completed Level 1 & 2 for effective couples work.
• Prepare/Enrich Certified Facilitator: Guides pre-marital and marital counseling.
• Relational Life Therapy (Terry Real) in Process: Actively pursuing advanced certification.

Professional Affiliations:

• AAMFT: American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy
• TAMFT: Texas Association for Marriage & Family Therapy
• NICABM: National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine
• ISSTD: International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation
• EMDRIA: EMDR International Association
• WASTP: Washington Association for the Study of Trauma & Psychotherapy

Why Choose Neddy P. Dommer?

Choosing a therapist represents a deeply personal and significant decision. Here’s why many clients across the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex ultimately choose to work with me at Kairos Counseling:

• Passion for Your Freedom: My core passion truly lies in seeing people set free. This means liberation from past hurts and traumas, and freedom from the limiting beliefs that might haunt their present or steal their future possibilities. I deeply believe you were CREATED FOR and BORN INTO a life of profound purpose and fulfillment.
• Deep Understanding of Your Story: With a strong academic background in writing and literature, I possess a unique appreciation for the profound power of your personal narrative. I firmly believe that gaining a greater awareness of how your life experiences have shaped you provides you with the power and ability to intentionally move closer to walking in the true calling you were created for.
• Specialized Trauma Expertise: I have intentionally pursued advanced training in various trauma-informed therapies, including EMDR and Sandtray therapy. This ensures that I can provide proper, adequate support and effective tools for your healing journey. My heart's intention is to compassionately hold a space for the "wounded child" that often continues to exist within each one of us, regardless of our age.
• Client-Centered Warmth and Safety: Clients consistently share that they find me to be both kind and patient in our sessions. They frequently express that they feel truly seen and heard in a way they may have never experienced before. My primary goal is always to offer a genuine sense of safety within a warm, peaceful, and inviting space where deep healing can occur.
• Comprehensive and Holistic Approach: I skillfully combine left-brain cognitive understanding, derived from Attachment Theory and Polyvagal Theory, with powerful right-brain somatic and emotional tools like EMDR and Expressive Arts. This ensures a truly holistic path to healing that addresses your mind, body, and spirit in unison.

Take the First Step

Taking the initial step toward seeking therapy can feel incredibly challenging – I understand that deeply. Please know that I am here, ready to compassionately hold that space with you as you embark on this important and transformative journey.